Stand Out from the Crowd
A recent weekend challenge in the Executive Sir group chat involved a review of boys’ social media profiles across various apps, from Grindr to Recon and everything in between. From this review, several themes emerged which have prompted me to write this article to help boys attract the Sir they need.
Know the Audience Within Your App
Every app has its target audience, so adapt your profile accordingly.
Recon is very kink-focused; lead with your particular interest.
The Blowers is more straightforwardly focused on oral satisfaction; do not put off potential service opportunities by leading with complex kinks.
Grindr is a cornucopia of interests, from niche sexual preferences to those seeking romance.
The key is to be single-minded in what you seek to attract and draft your profile accordingly.
Know What You are Looking For
Many profiles I reviewed were confused. If you are looking for a romantic vanilla relationship, write a profile to attract that audience. If you are looking to be an on-call servant for superior men, draft a profile to suit that audience. I see no space where both agendas combine well in one profile.
Your profile is an advertisement. Have one ‘big idea’ you want to get across. Your headline is your first opportunity. “Jeremy 28” tells me nothing, whereas “Boy looking to serve 28” makes clear exactly what you are offering. Unless you can communicate your ‘big idea’ in your headline, it is too complex. And remember: it is what you offer that matters, not what you are looking for.
It is Not About You
If you are reading this, the chances are you are a boy or a servant. Draft your profile accordingly. Sir is interested in what you can offer him.
In a D/s context, you are the submissive, so focus on his needs. Phrases like, ‘I humbly offer my experience in XYZ’ or ‘My limits are open to be challenged; I seek to please you exactly how you prefer’ indicate that a boy understands his role in the hierarchy. A boy listing his own needs and desires puts off most Sirs, as it suggests you do not understand the truth of the hierarchy.
Be Positive
Profiles laden with negative statements—no face pic, no chat, no older—simply make a Sir move on. By placing demands on your profile, Sirs like me clock that you are untrained and self-centred. We then question whether we want to spend time educating you on correct etiquette. Be open, be positive, and be humble.
A Picture Tells a Thousand Words
Choose your picture wisely to represent your ‘big idea.’
A picture in a harness is perfect if you are looking for a hardcore Master.
If you want a suited Sir like me, consider a professional-type picture where you are well-dressed or “preppy.”
If you want a “man-next-door” type, dress in street clothes.
If you have a beautiful body but are open to a Sir who is average or larger, ensure your profile makes clear that you offer service to all types of Sir, so he is not intimidated by your looks.
Know the Purpose of Your Profile
Your profile’s only purpose is to get a conversation started. From there, it is up to you. Build a bond in conversation. Be interested before focusing on being interesting. Listen to what he says and be ready to show how you can meet his needs. The conversation is where you show respect and readiness to serve. A worthy Sir will ask about your limits; there is no need to lead with them in your profile.
Do Not Worry About Age or Inexperience
There is a Sir for every boy.
Inexperienced: Say you are eager to learn. Many Sirs prefer a blank slate they can train exactly how they prefer. Just don’t be “flaky”—it is a huge turn-off.
Older: Think about how you might serve in different ways. You have maturity and experience. You might have more resources; perhaps you can accommodate or offer chauffeur services.
Young/Hot: Do not lead with your looks alone. Be a better communicator, ask for Sir’s guidance, and be respectful. Being “hot” is not enough to secure a Sir on its own.
Be Proactive
Don’t just sit back. Approach Sirs you think you can satisfy. A simple ‘Hi’ will usually be ignored, but a respectful, ‘Hello Sir, I humbly present myself to you…’ will go much further in piquing his interest.
Karma and Etiquette
Do not block or ghost any Sir you have a conversation with. Politely make your excuses and move on. Leave a positive tone. Similarly, if using sites with review options, always leave a positive review for your Sir.
Always remember: a Sir can only live his truth because a boy like you surrenders to him. Sir and boy are like Yin and Yang. Be confident in your truth, and you will find your Sir.
Example Profile Tweak
Before:
Submissive boi for Doms & Daddies Ideally looking for a dom/sub relationship but open to ownership in other forms too. Keyholder vacancy very much needs filling. Very obedient, hungry boy eager to please an Alpha, Master, Daddy type. Experienced and flexible to a Sir’s needs—i am completely driven by handing over control to another man for their pleasure. Sexual objectification and power exchange are key.
After (Sir-Centred):
Submissive boy for Doms & Daddies Available for a Dom/sub relationship or ownership in other forms. Self-locked in preparation for a committed keyholder. Very obedient, hungry boy eager to please my Alpha, Master, or Daddy. Experienced and flexible to Sir’s needs—I am completely driven by handing over control to my superior for his pleasure. Dedicated to sexual objectification and power exchange.
