The Reality
I have owned many boys over the years and several of them have suffered from depression. I’m not a doctor, so don’t mean a medically diagnosed condition, but low mood, low libido, low energy over a period. I’m fortunate, in not suffering in such a way.
We Sirs usually live our lives with positive optimism and an understanding that we deserve only the best, and as a consequence we have only the best. My experience is that these moods can come over a boy like a fog and last a few days to a few months.
Difficult Times
These times are difficult and can put real strain on your relationship with Sir. He will not know what to do with you. You may start to see his demands as overwhelming, or putting pressure on you. He will see his demands as natural and a right of ownership. This chasm of understanding and experience is where the risk lies.
Over the years I have tried several approaches. I have been understanding and supportive and worked hard not to take the negative talk and general negativity as disrespectful of my position. On other occasions I have reminded them that they are my boy, and that I will be there for them when the fog lifts. On other occasions, it has been a mix of the two approaches. No approach has ever been completely satisfactory.
Communicate, Communicate
The best way to navigate such a period is to communicate with your Sir. Tell him what you need from him. Do you need space, do you need stricter control, do you need him to take you out of your head with service? Whatever it is, tell him. He is used to having what he wants, yet in these times you are unable to provide it. He needs you to show him how to protect you and be the best Sir for you in these times. A Protector Sir will do for you as much as he is capable of. He will show you understanding and patience, but ultimately it is up to you to show him the way.
Help Him Be the Best Sir
A Sir invested in his boy, will not simply walk away. Understand he is not getting from you what he needs in these moments as you are unable to focus on him as you should. Write him a letter, send a voice note, however you can tell him what you need from him so he knows how to be the best Sir for you.
He Needs Your Devotion
Whatever you do, tell him that he is your Sir. Tell him that he is your king and that you will return to his feet when you can. Sir needs your reassurance, he needs your devotion even when you feel you can’t.
