The Reality
As a boy, it is useful to understand that Sirs are accustomed to getting what they want. They get good seats in restaurants and good service at cafes; others hold doors for them. The world is open to them, and they navigate it with grace and ease. Getting what they want is how they see the world; they take it for granted. This is not to say they take advantage of or exploit those who show respect or deference—in truth, they don’t think about it. Preference and success are simply how they experience the world. They command respect, and the world gives it back in return.
It Hits Harder
When you disappoint your Sir, it hits him harder than you can imagine. When he doesn’t get what he wants from you, it can be difficult for him to process and understand this rare and uncomfortable emotion. You—his possession, something he treasures and values as a prize—have disobeyed, disrespected, or simply neglected his needs. This can be devastating for a Sir.
The “fight or flight” response is natural in all of us, but Sir is unaccustomed to fighting for what he wants. He wants you as his prize, but he won’t fight for you. He wants you to willingly give yourself to him; he simply isn’t experienced in fighting for something. He will fight to protect you, but he will rarely fight to have you. So inbuilt is his experience of the world that he expects to get what he wants with ease.
Risk Everything
The disappointment, whatever it may be, risks everything you have with your Sir. Because he does not know how to fight for your submission, he may choose to “fly” away. This isn’t because he doesn’t want you—far from it—he just doesn’t know what else to do. So, when your Sir stops responding to your messages as quickly or becomes withdrawn, know that he needs your help. He needs you to show him a path back to where you were.
Replacement
Sir knows that he deserves a boy and that there are many boys who would welcome the opportunity to serve. He may feel that, in order to overcome the disappointment you have caused, he simply needs a new boy to fill the void created by your absence, and he will seek to claim one. This is not to say he does not prize you; it is simply how he must protect himself.
Put Him on His Pedestal
Examine the disappointment—be it words, actions, or indeed inaction—and discover for yourself how to show your Sir a path back to his pedestal in your life. Show him you want and need him; show him he is your king. This is the only way back. Apologies or “talking it through” mean nothing to him; he needs to be your everything if he is to be your king. You must show him that he is.
Do this, or risk losing him forever.
