The Reality
As a boy it is useful to understand that Sirs are accustomed to getting what they want. They get good seats in restaurants, good service at cafes, others hold the door for them, the world is open to them and they navigate it with grace and ease. Getting what they want is how they see the world, they take it for granted. This is not to say, they take advantage or exploit those who show respect or deference, in truth they don’t think about it. Preference and success is simply how they experience the world. They command respect, and the world gives it back in return.
It Hits Harder
When you disappoint your Sir it hits him harder than you can imagine. When he doesn’T get what he wants from you, it can be hard for him to process and understand this rare and uncomfortable emotion. You, his possession, something he treasures and values as a prize has disobeyed, disrespected, or simply neglected his needs. This can be devastating for a Sir.
Fight or flight response is natural in all of us, but Sir is unaccustomed to fighting for what he wants. He wants you as his prize, but he won’t fight for you. He wants you to willingly give yourself to him. He simply isn’t experienced in fighting for something. He’ll fight to protect you, but rarely fight to have you. So inbuilt is his experience of the world that he gets what he wants with ease.
Risk Everything
The disappointment, whatever it is, risks everything you have with your Sir. He doesn’t know how to fight, so he will fly away. This isn’t because he doesn’t want you, far from it, he just doesn’t know what else to do. So when your Sir stops responding to your messages as quickly, or becomes withdrawn, know he needs your help. He needs you to show him a path back to where you were.
Replacement
Sir knows that he deserves a boy, and that there are many boys who would welcome the opportunity to serve. He will feel that in order to overcome whatever disappointment you have caused, he simply needs a new boy to fill the void created by your absence in his life and he will seek to claim one. This isn’t to say in any way he doesn’t prize you, it is simply how he must protect himself.
Put Him on His Pedestal
Look to the disappointment, be it words or action, or indeed inaction and discover for yourself how you show your Sir a path back to his pedestal in your life. Show him you want and need him, show him he is your king. This is the only way back. Apologies, or ‘talking it through’ mean nothing, he needs to be your everything if he is to be your king. You must show him that he is.
Do this or risk losing him forever
