Can Two Worlds Co-exist?

Parallel Worlds

I often hear from boys who struggle with the tension created when trying to live in two worlds.  Their vanilla life of agency and even power in a career, or family dynamic, contrasts and may sometimes conflict with their deepest need to serve their superiors.

The truth is that a boy’s need to serve will always triumph as it is a deep rooted part of his nature. It is who he is at the most fundamental level. The urge and need to exercise this part of him will always win though. A boy may deny it for a while, or for periods in his life, but ultimately to live the life he was born to, he must exercise his truth.

Many boys may go through phases of denial or acceptance. Some may push against their truth and over-compensate by becoming hyper-masculine versions of what they consider a real man to be.  We see these types all over the internet, bulked up and defining themselves by a bullying attitude or a scowl or middle finger. Just beneath the surface of these types is often a boy, too scared to reveal his truth. A truth buried by lifting heaving things and putting them down again. A truth hidden by a curtain of exploiting  authentic boys who they treat with contempt. This contempt is really a mirror to a soul they find too troubling and destabilising to contemplate in themselves.

Other boys may deny their truth by entering caring or service professions where they can exercise their need to serve others.  While a worthy pursuit, unless it is done with an acknowledgement of why they have such a need to serve, they will remain unfulfilled.

And then there are the boys who live a life guided by the expectations of others, carrying the burdens of life trudging through never really finding their place. They fulfil the roles expected of them; dutiful son, loving husband, great friend, but whatever they do, they never feel complete.

Whatever phase a boy is in, he will never find fulfilment. For this reason, the question is not, can I make my two worlds co-exist, but how can the various parts of me truly live.

Many boys, and indeed Sirs, keep close to their heart the fantasy of complete slavery. The fantasy of a boy signing his life away to a superior forever. A life of service, a life absent of the need to make decisions, a life unburdened by the drudgery of modern existence. This is a beautiful fantasy, but for most, it will remain a fantasy. When  a boy faces the real prospect of signing his life away, or for a Sir, the prospect of taking on a boy with such a deep commitment,  other passions start to fight for attention. A boy may have a passion for music, a deep connection with family or friends, a wonderful talent he loves using. A boy must ask himself whether the fantasy is worth signing away these other passions for?

The answer is always no.  Because just as denying your truth is a recipe for unhappiness, so is denying your other passions. So what is a boy to do?  The answer is simple, surrender to the right Sir.

The right Sir will be drawn to all of you, your passions, your interests, your personality, and of course your truth. He will really see the person you are and he will want all of you. He will want to direct your talents to his purpose. He will want to maximise your potential and build you up to be the best boy you can be for him. He may deny things that he knows are not good for you, but he will not be threatened by your talents. He will guide you, and mentor you and push you to work harder. The right Sir will teach you that once claimed, you are no longer working to improve yourself, you are working to improve yourself for him. The right Sir will be proud of all that you achieve because you achieve it for him.

With the right Sir you may indeed lead in your vanilla life, but you will lead for him. You may indeed lead other younger of professionally junior dominants, but lead them you will. You will lead them as a representative of your Sir. Leadership does not erode your true nature, it enhances it. Your Sir will look upon you with pride knowing that you do your best for him.

The more junior Dominant in your team will not be threatened by your leadership because he will know your truth. He will know you’re acting in service to your Sir. He will know that in a different context, and with permission from your Sir, you will serve him, but he will look upon you with respect, the respect all Sir’s show to boys who live their truth and serve their Sirs well.

The right Sir will not be threatened by your larger salary, higher status or bigger boy dick. He is drawn to all of you. Hierarchy transcends class, age, race and ability. Hierarchy is a birthright. It cannot be denied.

So boys, go forth and excel. Maximise your talents, do well in your careers, improve yourselves. A claimed boy, does this for his Sir. An unclaimed boy does it to be ready and worthy of being claimed. Any Sir who denies parts of you, does not see who you are. Such a man is not worthy of your gift.