Tools to support a lifestyle in the hierarchy.
Negotiations Contracts can be powerful tools. They cement boundaries and expectations for both Sir and boy. I find it useful to start with shorter timeframes and build up from there. Each contract renewal creates a moment to pause and think what needs to be altered. I set the expectation that each subsequent contract gives over […]
Know Yourself, Know Your Boy Key to a successful D/s relationship is good communication. Some Sir’s may find a questionnaire like the one provided here useful in getting an understanding of a potential boy in advance of taking him on. I have in the past offered boy training and this was a useful starting point
Decision Time Deciding to surrender to Sir is one of life’s major decisions. It can be a turning point; the start of an important chapter. Such a moment is both exciting and fear inducing in equal measure. Many boys struggle to take the final step, questioning whether the Sir who seeks to claim them
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Commandments Every Sir is different. Every Sir will have expectations and protocols particular to them. However, there is a general standard of service that I believe is common across many Sir’s. Just like the Christian 10 Commandments, these protocols for Boys are open to discussion and debate. Of course your Sir will determine his one
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Seek Strength It is right for a boy to face challenge. It is the challenge that makes him stronger and more resilient for his Sir. When a boy faces challenge, some may like to call upon a higher power other than Sir. Boys from a religious or spiritual background are often called to prayer. When
The Power of Affirmation A boy will know deep in his soul who he is. This doesn’t mean his path is without challenge. Claimed or unclaimed, the regular recital of this affirmation will strengthen a boy’s resolve to live an authentic life. Declared aloud at least three times a day, often more, this will embed
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